I have absolutely nothing to do today. Nothing at all. Right now it is 10:45am. I got home around 8am and since then I have had coffee, fed the cats, made a list of stuff I COULD do today, checked my email, went on Facebook, surfed the net, watched some YouTube videos, called my mom.... and that's about it.
Tonight I'm heading into the North End for St. Joseph's Festival with the boyfriend. Originally he said 8pm to be at his house (then drive to the T station to take the T into town and walk to the north end??). I got him to move it up to 7 before I left his house, then text him that 6 or 6:30 might be better. Even though I haven't heard back from him, I'm going to aim to be at his house around 6 tonight. So leave here by 5:40. If I plan to get in the shower by 4:30, then I have time to slowly get ready for tonight, plus get all my stuff ready for tomorrow (beach day with mom- so dressed in bathing suit and cover up, beach bag packed, laundry to do at her house ready to go too).
SO... that still gives me over 5 1/2 hours. And I have NOTHING to do. It might be good if I give myself a pedi. I could vacuum the house, empty the dishwasher and put away the clean laundry I did last week (and didn't wear ANY of it this week? How is that even possible!) Otherwise, my house is pretty clean. I only slept here Monday and Thursday night in the past week. Otherwise I was at the boyfriends house, where I'll be sleeping again tonight. Just vacuum and I'm good to go! I went CRAZY cleaning here last weekend, plus before I went on vacation it was insanity cleaning... as in the cleanest this place has been since I cleaned it when I first moved in! At this point, I haven't been home long enough for it to get that bad and the cats don't make much of a mess other than fur! :)
Last night I had a blast with the boyfriend. I was a little late. Rushed in the shower and hacked the hell out of my leg! DAMN! Wouldn't stop bleeding and the bathroom was so hot and humid! How do you get a band aid on wet skin??? He was sitting on his front porch when I got there, so we just hopped in his car and headed out for dinner. Great meal at a place we haven't gone to yet together. Weird crowd though.
This place is a restaurant/sports bar that has an arcade and now a bowling alley with 6 lanes in it. When we walked in, they checked our ID's at the door. After that, a group with 6 little league boys about 8 years old walked in. And while we were there, sitting at a table in the main bar area watching the game and having dinner, the band was setting up for the night. As the table next to us had a 3 year old girl sitting there. Not to mention the train wrecks that were walking around. I wondered if they owned mirrors. He just said they were trucks. NOT the most attractive group I've ever seen assembled in one place! Just a REALLY weird miss matched crowd of people. Trashy dressed girls, VERY over-weight woman walking with canes, kids, families, a guy with a patch over his eye. Just weird.
But while we were there, the boyfriend started to crash. He had a really busy week at work for the 2nd week in a row. A guy he works with had a heart attack and has been out. He's going to be ok and was already in the hospital when the worst part hit. I think he's going back to work this week. But the boyfriend has been trying to do both of their jobs for the past 2 weeks... his job, writing estimates and trying to land new jobs and the other guys job as the PM and making sure the booked jobs are going and going right. LOTS of headaches and stress and very early mornings and days on the road and at job sites. He was TIRED last night!
We left the bar early and were at his house, listening to the game in bed before 10pm. I shut the radio off in the 7th when I knew Wakefield couldn't get the win (even if the Sox won, it would have been a no decision for Wake, and I only wanted to listen for his 200th win.) We were both asleep right after that.
But I got what I wanted, to lay in his arms. Him next to me with his arm draped over me. That's my favorite! I'm on my back, his on his side with his head on my shoulder. His arm is over my stomach and his leg is wrapped over mine. Just snuggled up nice. I love that.
Plus, he loved the shirt I wore, just like I knew he would. When we were in his room putting the radio on the game and changing for bed, he said he really liked the shirt and that I looked hot. SO YAY! Got the reaction I was hoping for. Too bad he was too tired for anything else other than sleeping. :) But that's cool. I know he had a LONG week. I was the same way on Thursday night when it took me 2 hours just to change out of my work clothes. Just absolutely spent.
SO tonight should be fun. Heading to the feast. Tomorrow the beach and maybe back to his house after, not sure. He's going to his parents house tomorrow to cut down a tree for them with the new saw he bought last weekend (a micro burst in his area knocked down a HUGE branch off a tree in his back yard, taking part of his neighbors fence with it!) Who knows if we'll meet up in the north shore near our parents houses or wait until we both get home.
I had mentioned Canobie Lake Park too. I haven't been in a couple of years. I used to go with one of my friends for a few years in a row, sometimes with her brother too, but we haven't been in a while. Its fun to go now and again. I just mentioned it in passing when I saw a commercial on TV, that I want to go there sometime again. He said how about next weekend... so who knows, maybe next weekend! :)
Then he said he wants to take a day off for either a pre-season Pats game or a practice. I have never been to a practice (didn't know they charge for it too!). He asked if I could take a day off to go to one in the next few weeks. My boss is great with time off... I still have a few more days that I have to use this year. I have 5 days scheduled in September now and then have almost 4 left after that. I can only carry over 2. I don't care if I use them all up and don't carry any over. I just don't want to lose time again like I did last year. But it would be a blast to go to a practice or pre-season game with him!
As far as time off... I had already put in for 2 Friday's in September. My birthday on the 9th and my friends wedding on the 16th. The Monday of my birthday week is Labor Day, so I just ended up putting in for Tuesday, Wednesday & Thursday too... to get the full week off. Even though I have absolutely nothing planned, I'm REALLY looking forward to a full week off. Lots will be going on over Labor Day weekend anyway so it will really only be a couple of days on my own. But if the weather is nice? BEACH DAYS!!! Even if not... just days off to relax and enjoy! REALLY looking forward to it!
SO much difference for me now. Just having all the work stuff cleared up, a resolution made and the chance to put it all behind me so I can move on. That's all I really needed. A resolution, and closure to the mess. I'm there and now I'm good.
Hopefully I can put all the drama behind me now. I've had enough of it all. I don't really want to deal with anymore of it. I think I've had my fill for the summer. The boyfriend has seen me in some pretty high stress situations! Not sure how well he knows me without all of that going on, since I've had so much of it since I've been with him.
Hmm... been about 2 1/2 months with him at this point, since our first date. It has gone by so quickly. We just got into this routine I guess and weekend nights we are basically together without question. Funny how quickly I got here with him.... into this relationship. And how happy I am. Little things with him make me laugh. We are always laughing and joking and having fun. We have serious conversation and are still learning more and more about each other, but I really really like the time that I spend with him.
And I think it is SO funny that this is really one of the only times I haven't gone off and away into Julie World. Even the last guy, I was thinking of commuting work from his house and living in his neighborhood and how things would be in his house when he remodeled. Now? No. None of that. I'm completely in the moment. I think once I said something about him doing a race with me in December (the Santa Speedo Run) when him and I were talking about different races. He doesn't really run and I said if you want to do one that's fun, short and nuts, do that one with me in December! I was serious about him doing it with me, but it wasn't until after that I realized I said something for us to do 5 months from now when we haven't even been together for 3 months yet!
But other than that, I haven't gone off to what we are doing in the future. I'm in right now. Next weekend, a golf outing at the end of August, doing something for my birthday, the 2 weddings I have in the 2 weekends after my birthday. That's about it.... ok, so maybe 2 months out. Cousin Angela's wedding on September 24th. That's how far out I am with him. But not in a Julie World sense... in a I have a wedding that I want you to go with me to and this is when it is, sort of way.
Day by day. That's how I'm taking it all. And it is working. Everything about it is really working. We have a lot in common, we have our own things and our own space but our time together, we laugh and have fun and are so compatible. We have similar backgrounds with our families (Irish/Italian), where we grew up, how we live on the other side of Boston from where we grew up- but our parents are still up that way. I don't know. This is just good.
And I'm just really really happy. :)
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Friday, July 29, 2011
Finally the Weekend
This was a LONG week. I am SO happy Friday is finally here and this week is now over. It was good to get everything out on Tuesday night I felt much better after that. After writing, I ended up going to my boyfriends house. Laying and sleeping in his arms was the best thing ever that night.
The rest of the week was better, but work was still crazy. I think the whole emotional roller coaster just took its toll on me. I was just spent. Last night I couldn't do anything when I got home. It took me to hours just to change my clothes!
But by today, I'm doing better. I'm out of work. I have 2 days of rest ahead of me and I'm looking forward to it.
Tonight I'm heading over to my boyfriends house. We're going out for dinner, then to a bar. I just want to see the Sox game for Wakefield's 200th win! :) But I have my clothes ready... my cute new top that I KNOW the boyfriend is going to love! I'm already running late though. I should have been in the shower already. Just needed a few minutes to relax first.
Hmm... what else?
Got the formal letter from work about the whole resolution thing. SO that's officially done and it is time to really move on.
I'm doing another 1/2 marathon with a group of friends in October in Hartford. I can't wait! But now I really need to focus back on my running and training. I NEED to get my butt in gear to accomplish this! I really want to beat my time big from last time. I think I want to aim for the 2 hour- 2 hour, 15 minute mark for my finishing time. We'll see how that goes!
Ok... now I really need to get in the shower. Can't keep him waiting too long! :) Even though I know he's going to LOVE what I'm wearing tonight, so he won't mind if I'm a few minutes late.
This is one really great thing in my life. I'm so happy with him. He's fun, funny and kind. I just have a great time when I am with him and love nothing more than laying next to him with his arms wrapped around me. I'm just happy with how things are.
And I STILL haven't gone to Julie World with him. I don't think too far ahead. I just stay and live in the moment of when we are together and what we are doing next. This is a really good thing with a really great guy. He's smart, hard working, dedicated and focused. Its amazing to see what he's done with his house! Funny, but a handy guy is kind of a turn on! :)
Ok... REALLY need to hop in the shower NOW!!!
The rest of the week was better, but work was still crazy. I think the whole emotional roller coaster just took its toll on me. I was just spent. Last night I couldn't do anything when I got home. It took me to hours just to change my clothes!
But by today, I'm doing better. I'm out of work. I have 2 days of rest ahead of me and I'm looking forward to it.
Tonight I'm heading over to my boyfriends house. We're going out for dinner, then to a bar. I just want to see the Sox game for Wakefield's 200th win! :) But I have my clothes ready... my cute new top that I KNOW the boyfriend is going to love! I'm already running late though. I should have been in the shower already. Just needed a few minutes to relax first.
Hmm... what else?
Got the formal letter from work about the whole resolution thing. SO that's officially done and it is time to really move on.
I'm doing another 1/2 marathon with a group of friends in October in Hartford. I can't wait! But now I really need to focus back on my running and training. I NEED to get my butt in gear to accomplish this! I really want to beat my time big from last time. I think I want to aim for the 2 hour- 2 hour, 15 minute mark for my finishing time. We'll see how that goes!
Ok... now I really need to get in the shower. Can't keep him waiting too long! :) Even though I know he's going to LOVE what I'm wearing tonight, so he won't mind if I'm a few minutes late.
This is one really great thing in my life. I'm so happy with him. He's fun, funny and kind. I just have a great time when I am with him and love nothing more than laying next to him with his arms wrapped around me. I'm just happy with how things are.
And I STILL haven't gone to Julie World with him. I don't think too far ahead. I just stay and live in the moment of when we are together and what we are doing next. This is a really good thing with a really great guy. He's smart, hard working, dedicated and focused. Its amazing to see what he's done with his house! Funny, but a handy guy is kind of a turn on! :)
Ok... REALLY need to hop in the shower NOW!!!
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Breakdown Anyone?
Everyone has their limits. I know the phrase God only give you as much as you can handle. Well I can't handle anymore. I have hit my limit and might have even passed it. Not good when you are crying often during the day.
SO I'll try to remember all of the very highly stressful and emotional situations that I have had happen over the past 2 months. Sad part is, I haven't done anything to contribute to these. Some people like drama in their lives. They do things that bring it in or have responses that add to it. I work to keep the drama to a minimum in whatever I CAN control. I've put distance in relationships, changed how I spend time and done what I can to remove drama and stress when I have control over it.
Here's what I couldn't control:
Late May, my company had a lay off, letting 10% of the staff go. My best friend in the company was one of the people who lost her job. It was completely unexpected at 11am on a Tuesday and just a HORRIBLE day, horrible week.
June 20th. Sexual harassment issue that blindsided me and destroyed a really great working relationship.
June 21st. My cat is at the vet, didn't know what was wrong. Found out he is diabetic and if I hadn't caught it then, he could have died. (since then and other appointments, now owe over $2500 on the kitty credit card! Finances do not have a specific date, but are tighter now with this as well)
July 5th. Find out my cousin overdosed, was on life support and it didn't look good. She died the next day at 29 years old. The OD was at a party on Saturday, July 2nd. The police showed up at her mom's house on July 4th as she was leaving for a cookout. They told her to call this doctor at this hospital. That's how her mom found out she was on life support and had been for 2 days. Nice, huh?
July 14th. Find out that I was not the only person who had been sexually harassed and my "hypothetical" conversation with HR became official. That started the past 2 weeks of living in limbo for a final resolution to happen with this. Have not had one full night of sleep since the night before this (2 hours at a time just laying in bed in the middle of the night). I am completely exhausted, run down and have been since for a week now, which included me losing my voice and having to cancel 2 training sessions I had scheduled to give at work.
July 25th. Receive emails from Amazon Payments confirming transactions I didn't make. Thank God I only $500 in my account. Two $200 charges went through, but the 3rd attempt was declined. Left work and took a 2 hour lunch to go to the bank, cancel my debit card, now waiting 2 weeks for a new one, and to file paperwork to get my $400 back. Now late on 2 bills I was planning on mailing out LAST minute yesterday because I don't have that $400.
THEN... at 4:30 I'm told to leave work at 4:45 because they are having a meeting at 5pm with the manager on the sexual harassment thing and he'll be in the building. They want me to be gone first so I don't need to bump into him in the parking lot.
Today, July 26th. Receive an email from same manager with the sexual harassment issue, addressed to me with 2 other's cc'd. I had been specifically told that there would be absolutely no contact at all. Ended up spending over an hour and a half in HR, 1 hour in a meeting with the HR manager and the company president which started VERY harsh. I ended up feeling a bit better by the end of the meeting but refused to allow him to sit with me in a meeting and have the opportunity to apologize to me. I don't really care if that will make HIM feel better. I am not in a place that I could even look at him, let alone give him the chance to apologize. The email from him was enough to bring tears to my eyes and make my physically shake.
I hurt my wrist at work today and between being emotionally on edge and my wrist, I canceled going to golf. I couldn't handle it. If I was this emotional, say I took a bad shot? I could EASILY end up in tears on the course.
I am just done. I really have nothing left. I can't handle anything else coming up. My mom called today to talk to me about something. After work I called her back and told her I knew it was important to her, but with everything I was going through I really just didn't care. I couldn't and I don't. I have nothing left and I am so emotionally spent right now. I just can't take dealing with one more thing.
And in all of these crazy, highly stressful and emotionally situations, I did NOTHING to bring them into my life! My Amazon account being hacked and $400 being stolen? My cat becoming diabetic and now owing $2500 at THIS POINT for his care? Being sexually harassed by a mentor? Having my best friend at work lose her job? My cousin overdosing and dying at 29? All of this within the past 2 months? Seriously? Isn't that kind of a lot for one person to take, especially within a 2 month period?
I have really been trying so hard to keep positive and keep upbeat. Running helps, being active helps and having a great support system has been amazing. My boyfriend is absolutely unbelievable. He is so supportive and I appreciate EVERYTHING he has done and how he has been there. My friends have been great and send me emails to just check on me. I have great people in my life who have helped with all of this and been there to listen to me vent and to help me work though this crap.
I'm doing my best to keep working through it all. One thing at a time, one day at a time. There is only so much I can do. Not sleeping a full night in almost 2 weeks, getting sick and then having even more pile on with the Amazon thing yesterday, THEN seeing an email from him today was just enough to push me over. I could NOT stop shaking at my desk and just had tears running down my face.
When I was in HR about that email, since he wasn't supposed to, because I knew he had met with them the night before & I wasn't sure if anything had changed, the HR manager told me that the manager wanted to come in to meet with me and apologize to me. Um, no. If my reaction to an email was shaking and tears? How could I handle a face to face? And he knew things had been different for over a month. If he wanted to apologize, he could have then BEFORE I reported him. He had a chance and didn't take it. He might want to apologize, but I don't want to receive one and I don't want to hear it. I just don't care.
SO... this is where I'm at. Trying to keep my head above water. Skipped golf and happen to be listening to thunder now anyway, so I'm thinking it might have been canceled anyway. I'm sitting on my bed, in sweats, trying to clear my head.
The movie, The Zookeeper is playing at the movie theater down the street at 7. Its bargain Tuesday's so it would only be $4 for a movie tonight, plus the popcorn of course! It might be enough to just get my mind off of things. It would be over by 9, with the previews which works perfect. I am going to my boyfriends house tonight after he gets home from his MMA class, so around 9:15-9:30. But I'm still on the fence about the movie. I could take a Zumba class too.
Or I could sit home and do absolutely nothing for the next couple of hours. My mind is so fried and I am so drained... making a simple decision on how to spend the next few hours is almost overwhelming at this point. But writing all of this crap out helps. Its a nice way to get it all out of my head and help me work it all through and just move forward. I keep trying to move forward but I feel like I'm just not going anywhere. More and more keeps getting piled on to the shit pile and I can't keep up.
I'll survive. I always do. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? So I'll be stronger with all of this shit in my life. I hate how it is making me feel and I hate how drained and emotional I feel. I want to be me again and I don't want all this outside crap and drama to have control over me and my life. I'm getting there. I'll get there. One day at time. Tonight I'll be at my boyfriends house, snuggle up next to him in bed and have his arms wrapped around me tight. I love that. So moments like that will keep me moving forward. I will get through it. My life will be ok. I will be ok.
SO I'll try to remember all of the very highly stressful and emotional situations that I have had happen over the past 2 months. Sad part is, I haven't done anything to contribute to these. Some people like drama in their lives. They do things that bring it in or have responses that add to it. I work to keep the drama to a minimum in whatever I CAN control. I've put distance in relationships, changed how I spend time and done what I can to remove drama and stress when I have control over it.
Here's what I couldn't control:
Late May, my company had a lay off, letting 10% of the staff go. My best friend in the company was one of the people who lost her job. It was completely unexpected at 11am on a Tuesday and just a HORRIBLE day, horrible week.
June 20th. Sexual harassment issue that blindsided me and destroyed a really great working relationship.
June 21st. My cat is at the vet, didn't know what was wrong. Found out he is diabetic and if I hadn't caught it then, he could have died. (since then and other appointments, now owe over $2500 on the kitty credit card! Finances do not have a specific date, but are tighter now with this as well)
July 5th. Find out my cousin overdosed, was on life support and it didn't look good. She died the next day at 29 years old. The OD was at a party on Saturday, July 2nd. The police showed up at her mom's house on July 4th as she was leaving for a cookout. They told her to call this doctor at this hospital. That's how her mom found out she was on life support and had been for 2 days. Nice, huh?
July 14th. Find out that I was not the only person who had been sexually harassed and my "hypothetical" conversation with HR became official. That started the past 2 weeks of living in limbo for a final resolution to happen with this. Have not had one full night of sleep since the night before this (2 hours at a time just laying in bed in the middle of the night). I am completely exhausted, run down and have been since for a week now, which included me losing my voice and having to cancel 2 training sessions I had scheduled to give at work.
July 25th. Receive emails from Amazon Payments confirming transactions I didn't make. Thank God I only $500 in my account. Two $200 charges went through, but the 3rd attempt was declined. Left work and took a 2 hour lunch to go to the bank, cancel my debit card, now waiting 2 weeks for a new one, and to file paperwork to get my $400 back. Now late on 2 bills I was planning on mailing out LAST minute yesterday because I don't have that $400.
THEN... at 4:30 I'm told to leave work at 4:45 because they are having a meeting at 5pm with the manager on the sexual harassment thing and he'll be in the building. They want me to be gone first so I don't need to bump into him in the parking lot.
Today, July 26th. Receive an email from same manager with the sexual harassment issue, addressed to me with 2 other's cc'd. I had been specifically told that there would be absolutely no contact at all. Ended up spending over an hour and a half in HR, 1 hour in a meeting with the HR manager and the company president which started VERY harsh. I ended up feeling a bit better by the end of the meeting but refused to allow him to sit with me in a meeting and have the opportunity to apologize to me. I don't really care if that will make HIM feel better. I am not in a place that I could even look at him, let alone give him the chance to apologize. The email from him was enough to bring tears to my eyes and make my physically shake.
I hurt my wrist at work today and between being emotionally on edge and my wrist, I canceled going to golf. I couldn't handle it. If I was this emotional, say I took a bad shot? I could EASILY end up in tears on the course.
I am just done. I really have nothing left. I can't handle anything else coming up. My mom called today to talk to me about something. After work I called her back and told her I knew it was important to her, but with everything I was going through I really just didn't care. I couldn't and I don't. I have nothing left and I am so emotionally spent right now. I just can't take dealing with one more thing.
And in all of these crazy, highly stressful and emotionally situations, I did NOTHING to bring them into my life! My Amazon account being hacked and $400 being stolen? My cat becoming diabetic and now owing $2500 at THIS POINT for his care? Being sexually harassed by a mentor? Having my best friend at work lose her job? My cousin overdosing and dying at 29? All of this within the past 2 months? Seriously? Isn't that kind of a lot for one person to take, especially within a 2 month period?
I have really been trying so hard to keep positive and keep upbeat. Running helps, being active helps and having a great support system has been amazing. My boyfriend is absolutely unbelievable. He is so supportive and I appreciate EVERYTHING he has done and how he has been there. My friends have been great and send me emails to just check on me. I have great people in my life who have helped with all of this and been there to listen to me vent and to help me work though this crap.
I'm doing my best to keep working through it all. One thing at a time, one day at a time. There is only so much I can do. Not sleeping a full night in almost 2 weeks, getting sick and then having even more pile on with the Amazon thing yesterday, THEN seeing an email from him today was just enough to push me over. I could NOT stop shaking at my desk and just had tears running down my face.
When I was in HR about that email, since he wasn't supposed to, because I knew he had met with them the night before & I wasn't sure if anything had changed, the HR manager told me that the manager wanted to come in to meet with me and apologize to me. Um, no. If my reaction to an email was shaking and tears? How could I handle a face to face? And he knew things had been different for over a month. If he wanted to apologize, he could have then BEFORE I reported him. He had a chance and didn't take it. He might want to apologize, but I don't want to receive one and I don't want to hear it. I just don't care.
SO... this is where I'm at. Trying to keep my head above water. Skipped golf and happen to be listening to thunder now anyway, so I'm thinking it might have been canceled anyway. I'm sitting on my bed, in sweats, trying to clear my head.
The movie, The Zookeeper is playing at the movie theater down the street at 7. Its bargain Tuesday's so it would only be $4 for a movie tonight, plus the popcorn of course! It might be enough to just get my mind off of things. It would be over by 9, with the previews which works perfect. I am going to my boyfriends house tonight after he gets home from his MMA class, so around 9:15-9:30. But I'm still on the fence about the movie. I could take a Zumba class too.
Or I could sit home and do absolutely nothing for the next couple of hours. My mind is so fried and I am so drained... making a simple decision on how to spend the next few hours is almost overwhelming at this point. But writing all of this crap out helps. Its a nice way to get it all out of my head and help me work it all through and just move forward. I keep trying to move forward but I feel like I'm just not going anywhere. More and more keeps getting piled on to the shit pile and I can't keep up.
I'll survive. I always do. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? So I'll be stronger with all of this shit in my life. I hate how it is making me feel and I hate how drained and emotional I feel. I want to be me again and I don't want all this outside crap and drama to have control over me and my life. I'm getting there. I'll get there. One day at time. Tonight I'll be at my boyfriends house, snuggle up next to him in bed and have his arms wrapped around me tight. I love that. So moments like that will keep me moving forward. I will get through it. My life will be ok. I will be ok.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Another Sunday Funday
My weeks have just been so busy, one after another after another. The summer is just going by so quickly! A week from tomorrow is already August. I don't want it to go by that fast. I just want to enjoy it all before its gone.
So far, this summer has been really good. The weather was SO hot this week, over 100 a couple of times. That was crazy for the Boston area. But after this winter, I'll take it!
Yesterday was super busy with shopping (food & clothes), cleaning, hair cut, and just overall running around. But the house is clean minus vacuuming. Food is bought & laundry is done (just need to put it all away).
Today I had planned out too. I left the guys house EARLY. I was awake at about 5:45 this morning, which is just wrong for a Sunday (still not sleeping but more on that in a bit). I let out the dog, folded my laundry, helped him shave his head and I was home before 7. I started feeding the cats, finished cleaning the bathroom and baked 38 mini chocolate cherry cupcakes for a cookout this afternoon. Then I hopped in the shower, put on my bathing suit, got my bag ready to go, and was just finishing up when I got a text message that our kayaking trip this morning was canceled! I was PISSED!
I had to call the guy, who was about 1/2 way to my house, to tell him. SO he turned around and headed home. Um, yeah, the storms already passed. We would have been fine! Oh well.
Now I have hours free, which is completely unusual for me. I'm going to the guys house for 1pm so we can head up to his brother's house for a cookout (the cupcakes). I was planning on taking a shower after kayaking, so when I showered this morning and shaved my legs, I only conditioned my hair and didn't wash it. Now I'll have to take another shower again.
I'm a little nervous about the cookout. I was glad we were kayaking this morning and that I was going to be busy all morning. Then I wouldn't have to think about meeting his family for the first time! Now I have time to sit and think and stew! I don't want to be nervous about it but I want them to like me. He was with his ex for 3 or 4 years and they just ended about 6 months ago. His family knew her. I don't know how they felt about her, I haven't asked and it really doesn't matter. But having someone new come in is different.
I want to make a good impression and I really do want them to like me. I really care about him and I'm so happy in this relationship. I want to get to know his family. That's part of the reason I was shopping yesterday. First, I had a 20% off coupon at Kohl's, plus $10 off and both were going to expire. Then I had a gift certificate to Marshall's too. So I went to both and bought LOTS. I am pretty sure of the skort I'm wearing, just need to figure out what top I want to wear with it.
SO what else?? No kayaking. Summer is flying. My weekend has been busy. Meeting the family today. I guess the guy in general.
Things are so good with us. I'm completely myself with him and I can say anything to him. He never makes me feel judged and never makes me feel uncomfortable around him. We have fun together and he always makes me laugh. He's such a good & kind person but he looks like he'll mess you up. Yeah, he's not perfect. He has a temper which I'm sure he's holding back a bit around me. He can be as impatient as me, sometimes even more impatient. But he's a hard worker. He follows through and is true to his word. He's kind and sweet to me.
My favorite is what we had this morning when I first woke up. I had gotten up to go to the bathroom and came back to bed. I was laying next to him, but I was on my belly. He rolled over onto his side and just draped his arm over my back. I love that. I love just laying in bed with his arms around me.
Sometimes he'll lay behind me, with one arm under me and one over me, and he'll put his leg over my leg too. I'll be completely wrapped up in him. I can't sleep like that, but I love to lay like that in his arms.
He makes me happy. He is good to me and I like being around him.
What else? I've been sick. ALL WEEK! After not sleeping last week because of all the stress at work (still not sleeping well), I just got completely run down. It started in my chest with some congestion on Tuesday and was worse on Wednesday. Wednesday at work I had 2 trainings I gave that were an hour a piece, plus a 45 minute phone call. By Wednesday night, I could feel the cold moving to my throat. Thursday... lost my voice. I had to cancel the 2 trainings I had scheduled for that day... NO WAY I could talk that long! I could barely handle a 5 minute call. Friday it was still in my throat, but my voice was better. I was just coughing a lot, the dry hacking cough. And Saturday and today?? Congestion is back, more in my sinuses now. Still don't have my voice completely back and still have the dry hacking cough. I sound WONDERFUL! That's how I woke up this morning... all congested, sneezing, coughing and just couldn't breathe.
I'm hoping the cold will go away by tomorrow or Tuesday at the latest. I'm sure the weather and having AC's on all the time isn't helping either. I guess allergies are pretty bad too. Put it all together and I'm just a mess and sound horrible.
The stress that is causing it all still isn't resolved. The our outside HR company rep was writing up a report with her findings on her investigation along with her recommendations. The report should have been done on Friday and was going to be given to my company president for her review. Then she'll be the one to make a final decision.
Based on a meeting I had in her office on Thursday that lasted less than 5 minutes, it seemed like she already made her decision before the report. I don't know if she knows all the details of what happened. I don't know if she knows everything he did or said. I am hoping that she doesn't know. I can't imagine getting that vibe from the meeting if she really did know. I can't imagine her being sympathetic to him if she knows what happened.
After the meeting it felt like her final decision and resolution was already reached. I'm pretty sure, no matter what the report says, that he'll end up keeping his job. I'm pretty sure that the only thing that will happen will be that his desk will move. He will no longer sit in the building, but will instead work from home. And that will be it. Everything else will stay the same.
Yes, that does keep him away from me and keep me from being in the situation again, but isn't that basically saying what he did was ok? Him keeping his job, doesn't that say that his position is more important than what he could have done to others? I know it is by no means the same level, but with the Catholic Church abuse issues, wasn't a big part of the problem the cover up? When something happened with a priest, didn't they just remove him from the situation without doing anything else? Just move him to somewhere else?
I know that's why I haven't been sleeping. I officially reported everything a week ago this past Thursday. The night before that I slept a full night. Last night was the first time I slept a full night since. It was about a week and half of waking up every night. I'm tired, run down & stressed. Last night I went to bed after 11:30 and was awake at 5:45. Six straight hours is HUGE for what I've been getting for sleep. I'm still tired, but just happy I slept straight through the night for once.
Monday or Tuesday I should have the decision on everything that is going on. I'll find out then about what is happening with him. SO who knows if I'll sleep tonight, thinking about that possibility tomorrow. :(
Hmm... Running group is great. We finished week 2 of this session and this group is great! I'm really happy I have this. I didn't golf this week or do Pilate's because of my cold and I only worked out with the guy once. I'm slacking but my weight is back to around 124-125 regularly this week. I'm ok with that. I'd rather get back to my normal 123 to have a few extra pounds to play with, but 125 is ok too.
After shopping yesterday, I realized my size still switches around. I had a bunch of 6's that were just too big. My waist is really small and I still have hips, even though they are MUCH smaller (not as much of a figure as I had cuz I lost a lot of them). I could have gone for 4's but just didn't, even though the skirt I was wearing shopping yesterday was a 4. I never ever thought I'd be fitting into a size 4! And I never thought I'd try on 6's and have them way too big for me that I could fit my entire fist inside the pants. Talk about coming a long way!
January of 2009 I weighted 162. By January of 2010, I was down to 142. Then last year I lost even more. This January I was sticking to 123. I would get nervous when I saw the scale drop to 121, or even the one time it was at 120. And when it started to go up, I'd watch it then too. Generally I was at 122-125. And even with the scale that weight, my body continued to shift. I lost inches and firmed up and toned and just got smaller while keeping the scale steady.
I can't wait to start swimming again in the fall. Who knew that I'd miss it that much! But I really really do. We are doing another 1/2 marathon in the fall, a group of us girls. I can't wait! But I really need to start training. I've been SO slacking on my running lately. I need to build back up and consistently get in the mileage.
Ahh... ok, now that I have written a book here! Guess I had lots to say after another week of not writing. My life is always busy. There is always something going on, or some sort of drama. Many times it is nothing I wanted or did to bring it into my life... like this mess at work. I didn't ask for that and didn't do anything to bring it on, but I still need to deal with it. All I can do is continue to focus on the good parts of my life. I have a great guy in my life who makes me so happy. I have a much better relationship with my family. The rest of my professional life is going really really well. I have great friends and even my cat is getting better (lower dose of insulin after the last vet appointment!). SO life is overall more good than bad.
On a whole, I'm happy. I like where things are and I like what I have. I laugh every day. I spend my time doing things I enjoy with people I care about. What else can I ask for, right??
So far, this summer has been really good. The weather was SO hot this week, over 100 a couple of times. That was crazy for the Boston area. But after this winter, I'll take it!
Yesterday was super busy with shopping (food & clothes), cleaning, hair cut, and just overall running around. But the house is clean minus vacuuming. Food is bought & laundry is done (just need to put it all away).
Today I had planned out too. I left the guys house EARLY. I was awake at about 5:45 this morning, which is just wrong for a Sunday (still not sleeping but more on that in a bit). I let out the dog, folded my laundry, helped him shave his head and I was home before 7. I started feeding the cats, finished cleaning the bathroom and baked 38 mini chocolate cherry cupcakes for a cookout this afternoon. Then I hopped in the shower, put on my bathing suit, got my bag ready to go, and was just finishing up when I got a text message that our kayaking trip this morning was canceled! I was PISSED!
I had to call the guy, who was about 1/2 way to my house, to tell him. SO he turned around and headed home. Um, yeah, the storms already passed. We would have been fine! Oh well.
Now I have hours free, which is completely unusual for me. I'm going to the guys house for 1pm so we can head up to his brother's house for a cookout (the cupcakes). I was planning on taking a shower after kayaking, so when I showered this morning and shaved my legs, I only conditioned my hair and didn't wash it. Now I'll have to take another shower again.
I'm a little nervous about the cookout. I was glad we were kayaking this morning and that I was going to be busy all morning. Then I wouldn't have to think about meeting his family for the first time! Now I have time to sit and think and stew! I don't want to be nervous about it but I want them to like me. He was with his ex for 3 or 4 years and they just ended about 6 months ago. His family knew her. I don't know how they felt about her, I haven't asked and it really doesn't matter. But having someone new come in is different.
I want to make a good impression and I really do want them to like me. I really care about him and I'm so happy in this relationship. I want to get to know his family. That's part of the reason I was shopping yesterday. First, I had a 20% off coupon at Kohl's, plus $10 off and both were going to expire. Then I had a gift certificate to Marshall's too. So I went to both and bought LOTS. I am pretty sure of the skort I'm wearing, just need to figure out what top I want to wear with it.
SO what else?? No kayaking. Summer is flying. My weekend has been busy. Meeting the family today. I guess the guy in general.
Things are so good with us. I'm completely myself with him and I can say anything to him. He never makes me feel judged and never makes me feel uncomfortable around him. We have fun together and he always makes me laugh. He's such a good & kind person but he looks like he'll mess you up. Yeah, he's not perfect. He has a temper which I'm sure he's holding back a bit around me. He can be as impatient as me, sometimes even more impatient. But he's a hard worker. He follows through and is true to his word. He's kind and sweet to me.
My favorite is what we had this morning when I first woke up. I had gotten up to go to the bathroom and came back to bed. I was laying next to him, but I was on my belly. He rolled over onto his side and just draped his arm over my back. I love that. I love just laying in bed with his arms around me.
Sometimes he'll lay behind me, with one arm under me and one over me, and he'll put his leg over my leg too. I'll be completely wrapped up in him. I can't sleep like that, but I love to lay like that in his arms.
He makes me happy. He is good to me and I like being around him.
What else? I've been sick. ALL WEEK! After not sleeping last week because of all the stress at work (still not sleeping well), I just got completely run down. It started in my chest with some congestion on Tuesday and was worse on Wednesday. Wednesday at work I had 2 trainings I gave that were an hour a piece, plus a 45 minute phone call. By Wednesday night, I could feel the cold moving to my throat. Thursday... lost my voice. I had to cancel the 2 trainings I had scheduled for that day... NO WAY I could talk that long! I could barely handle a 5 minute call. Friday it was still in my throat, but my voice was better. I was just coughing a lot, the dry hacking cough. And Saturday and today?? Congestion is back, more in my sinuses now. Still don't have my voice completely back and still have the dry hacking cough. I sound WONDERFUL! That's how I woke up this morning... all congested, sneezing, coughing and just couldn't breathe.
I'm hoping the cold will go away by tomorrow or Tuesday at the latest. I'm sure the weather and having AC's on all the time isn't helping either. I guess allergies are pretty bad too. Put it all together and I'm just a mess and sound horrible.
The stress that is causing it all still isn't resolved. The our outside HR company rep was writing up a report with her findings on her investigation along with her recommendations. The report should have been done on Friday and was going to be given to my company president for her review. Then she'll be the one to make a final decision.
Based on a meeting I had in her office on Thursday that lasted less than 5 minutes, it seemed like she already made her decision before the report. I don't know if she knows all the details of what happened. I don't know if she knows everything he did or said. I am hoping that she doesn't know. I can't imagine getting that vibe from the meeting if she really did know. I can't imagine her being sympathetic to him if she knows what happened.
After the meeting it felt like her final decision and resolution was already reached. I'm pretty sure, no matter what the report says, that he'll end up keeping his job. I'm pretty sure that the only thing that will happen will be that his desk will move. He will no longer sit in the building, but will instead work from home. And that will be it. Everything else will stay the same.
Yes, that does keep him away from me and keep me from being in the situation again, but isn't that basically saying what he did was ok? Him keeping his job, doesn't that say that his position is more important than what he could have done to others? I know it is by no means the same level, but with the Catholic Church abuse issues, wasn't a big part of the problem the cover up? When something happened with a priest, didn't they just remove him from the situation without doing anything else? Just move him to somewhere else?
I know that's why I haven't been sleeping. I officially reported everything a week ago this past Thursday. The night before that I slept a full night. Last night was the first time I slept a full night since. It was about a week and half of waking up every night. I'm tired, run down & stressed. Last night I went to bed after 11:30 and was awake at 5:45. Six straight hours is HUGE for what I've been getting for sleep. I'm still tired, but just happy I slept straight through the night for once.
Monday or Tuesday I should have the decision on everything that is going on. I'll find out then about what is happening with him. SO who knows if I'll sleep tonight, thinking about that possibility tomorrow. :(
Hmm... Running group is great. We finished week 2 of this session and this group is great! I'm really happy I have this. I didn't golf this week or do Pilate's because of my cold and I only worked out with the guy once. I'm slacking but my weight is back to around 124-125 regularly this week. I'm ok with that. I'd rather get back to my normal 123 to have a few extra pounds to play with, but 125 is ok too.
After shopping yesterday, I realized my size still switches around. I had a bunch of 6's that were just too big. My waist is really small and I still have hips, even though they are MUCH smaller (not as much of a figure as I had cuz I lost a lot of them). I could have gone for 4's but just didn't, even though the skirt I was wearing shopping yesterday was a 4. I never ever thought I'd be fitting into a size 4! And I never thought I'd try on 6's and have them way too big for me that I could fit my entire fist inside the pants. Talk about coming a long way!
January of 2009 I weighted 162. By January of 2010, I was down to 142. Then last year I lost even more. This January I was sticking to 123. I would get nervous when I saw the scale drop to 121, or even the one time it was at 120. And when it started to go up, I'd watch it then too. Generally I was at 122-125. And even with the scale that weight, my body continued to shift. I lost inches and firmed up and toned and just got smaller while keeping the scale steady.
I can't wait to start swimming again in the fall. Who knew that I'd miss it that much! But I really really do. We are doing another 1/2 marathon in the fall, a group of us girls. I can't wait! But I really need to start training. I've been SO slacking on my running lately. I need to build back up and consistently get in the mileage.
Ahh... ok, now that I have written a book here! Guess I had lots to say after another week of not writing. My life is always busy. There is always something going on, or some sort of drama. Many times it is nothing I wanted or did to bring it into my life... like this mess at work. I didn't ask for that and didn't do anything to bring it on, but I still need to deal with it. All I can do is continue to focus on the good parts of my life. I have a great guy in my life who makes me so happy. I have a much better relationship with my family. The rest of my professional life is going really really well. I have great friends and even my cat is getting better (lower dose of insulin after the last vet appointment!). SO life is overall more good than bad.
On a whole, I'm happy. I like where things are and I like what I have. I laugh every day. I spend my time doing things I enjoy with people I care about. What else can I ask for, right??
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Beach Day
Not sure why I'm not really sleeping lately, other than stress. The last 2 nights I spent at the guys house. His bed is AMAZING but I just haven't been sleeping well. I fall asleep ok, then wake up somewhere around 2 or 3am and I'm up for a bit... BOTH nights!
Each night I got another maybe 2 hours of sleep. Friday night I woke up at 3 and was up until 4, then went back to sleep until 5:30 when I was up for the day. Last night I woke up at 2:30 and was up until 3:30, but again... woke up at 5:30 and left around 6:30.
He made me a great dinner last night that he cooked. It was really cool. We watched a movie and he was exhausted from a long day, so we just went to bed... maybe around 10:30. Even waking up early and in the middle of the night, at least I ended up with about 6 hours of sleep. The night before was less and no nap yesterday. A little tired now, but hoping for a good nights sleep tonight. Not sure where I'm sleeping yet though! :)
Today is beach day. After a feel week on vacation in the sun, I worked pretty hard to get my tan. Now for the rest of the summer, I need to maintain. That's what today will be. Just 4-5 hours in the sun, relaxing, but enough to keep the color going without fading too much.
Still working on feeding the cats. 30 minutes ago, he got his food. I've already put the bowl in 3 places and he walked away again! DAMN! This is going to take a while. Had to skip his shot last night before I left because he wouldn't eat enough before I needed to go, so he NEEDS this one. He just kills me. Refuses to make this easy.
But, time to take a quick shower and get ready to go. Beach bag is packed. Bag of stuff for after the beach (to shower and change into) is packed. Laundry is ready to go (doing it at mom's and not the boyfriend's house this weekend, but I guess I should have just done it at his house last night. Oh well).
I have my list ready of things to bring with me, just in case. My list of stuff to remember to do tonight is done. And now I need to finish my shower, put on sunscreen and bathing suit, give my cat his shot, get all my crap in my car and leave in 26 minutes... at the latest! I need to be at my parents house in less than an hour or my mom will have a fit! :) The parking lot is under construction and will fill up fast on a 90 degree day. No Dunkin until after we get to the beach! :) Ok.. and here I am, still typing away. Still love to be under pressure!
Happy Fun Day Sunday! :)
Each night I got another maybe 2 hours of sleep. Friday night I woke up at 3 and was up until 4, then went back to sleep until 5:30 when I was up for the day. Last night I woke up at 2:30 and was up until 3:30, but again... woke up at 5:30 and left around 6:30.
He made me a great dinner last night that he cooked. It was really cool. We watched a movie and he was exhausted from a long day, so we just went to bed... maybe around 10:30. Even waking up early and in the middle of the night, at least I ended up with about 6 hours of sleep. The night before was less and no nap yesterday. A little tired now, but hoping for a good nights sleep tonight. Not sure where I'm sleeping yet though! :)
Today is beach day. After a feel week on vacation in the sun, I worked pretty hard to get my tan. Now for the rest of the summer, I need to maintain. That's what today will be. Just 4-5 hours in the sun, relaxing, but enough to keep the color going without fading too much.
Still working on feeding the cats. 30 minutes ago, he got his food. I've already put the bowl in 3 places and he walked away again! DAMN! This is going to take a while. Had to skip his shot last night before I left because he wouldn't eat enough before I needed to go, so he NEEDS this one. He just kills me. Refuses to make this easy.
But, time to take a quick shower and get ready to go. Beach bag is packed. Bag of stuff for after the beach (to shower and change into) is packed. Laundry is ready to go (doing it at mom's and not the boyfriend's house this weekend, but I guess I should have just done it at his house last night. Oh well).
I have my list ready of things to bring with me, just in case. My list of stuff to remember to do tonight is done. And now I need to finish my shower, put on sunscreen and bathing suit, give my cat his shot, get all my crap in my car and leave in 26 minutes... at the latest! I need to be at my parents house in less than an hour or my mom will have a fit! :) The parking lot is under construction and will fill up fast on a 90 degree day. No Dunkin until after we get to the beach! :) Ok.. and here I am, still typing away. Still love to be under pressure!
Happy Fun Day Sunday! :)
Friday, July 15, 2011
Crazy Week again
Vacation was amazing and unbelievably relaxing. More this year than any year past. It was great having the guy show up for a couple of days. He got along great with the family and overall it was really fun.
Always tough getting back into the routine and heading back to work. I had gained some weight, which I realized BEFORE vacation... 5 pounds since meeting the guy, plus 3 more on vacation! I wasn't worried about the 3. Gained them in a week and I could lose it even faster. Of the even 8 pounds, I'm already down to only 3.2 left to lose, so I feel good. Just watching what I'm eating and getting LOTS more exercise. Pretty sore right now... chest, tri's and abs on Wednesday night.
Then work... took until Tuesday afternoon for me to get to Monday's emails! But I'm pretty caught up at this point. Today is going to be a really busy day. I have 2 trainings, plus I wasn't at my desk for close to 2 hours yesterday afternoon, so I have all of those emails to catch up on too. JOY!
What else? I had 2 wakes this week. One on Sunday night and another Tuesday night. My cousin passed away last week. 29 and a horribly sad story. I feel so much for her family and can't even imagine what they are going through. The second was my friends mom and that was tough too.
Then yesterday... when I wasn't at my desk for a while in the afternoon. The sexual harassment thing from a few weeks ago, well I needed to make it official yesterday. After talking to someone else and hearing things she had been going through I asked her for his initial. It was the same person. Her and I walked to HR together and officially reported everything that was going on and what had happened to both of us (her receiving a hug and a kiss on the forehead, him buying her a $100 gift and having it shipped to her house, comments to her and others near her about their appearance, and more things like that).
If he is going to kiss her on her forehead? The comments suck, don't get me wrong, but they are only comments. To cross the line and kiss her on her forehead? And then to tell me he wants friends with benefits? If he crossed the line with kissing her & saying what he said to me, this is now not just me and not just an isolated thing. I know saying something and making this official is the right thing to do, but I'm freaking out.
Because its official, something is now going to happen. I don't know what, but something. At first I was freaking out because he might be fired now that we've and specifically because I have spoken out. But now? I'm freaking out because... what if he isn't fired? What if he stays? Obviously they are going to talk to him. He'll know I said something. What if he doesn't lose his job??? I'm freaking out because of that part now.
This whole situation just sucks and there is no other way to say it and no way around it. I am uncomfortable around him and too many others are as well. This isn't fun anymore. Something had to be done. I know I did nothing wrong and I know speaking out is the right thing and what has to be done. But DAMN this just sucks! Why did he have to go and do this and ruin everything???
Always tough getting back into the routine and heading back to work. I had gained some weight, which I realized BEFORE vacation... 5 pounds since meeting the guy, plus 3 more on vacation! I wasn't worried about the 3. Gained them in a week and I could lose it even faster. Of the even 8 pounds, I'm already down to only 3.2 left to lose, so I feel good. Just watching what I'm eating and getting LOTS more exercise. Pretty sore right now... chest, tri's and abs on Wednesday night.
Then work... took until Tuesday afternoon for me to get to Monday's emails! But I'm pretty caught up at this point. Today is going to be a really busy day. I have 2 trainings, plus I wasn't at my desk for close to 2 hours yesterday afternoon, so I have all of those emails to catch up on too. JOY!
What else? I had 2 wakes this week. One on Sunday night and another Tuesday night. My cousin passed away last week. 29 and a horribly sad story. I feel so much for her family and can't even imagine what they are going through. The second was my friends mom and that was tough too.
Then yesterday... when I wasn't at my desk for a while in the afternoon. The sexual harassment thing from a few weeks ago, well I needed to make it official yesterday. After talking to someone else and hearing things she had been going through I asked her for his initial. It was the same person. Her and I walked to HR together and officially reported everything that was going on and what had happened to both of us (her receiving a hug and a kiss on the forehead, him buying her a $100 gift and having it shipped to her house, comments to her and others near her about their appearance, and more things like that).
If he is going to kiss her on her forehead? The comments suck, don't get me wrong, but they are only comments. To cross the line and kiss her on her forehead? And then to tell me he wants friends with benefits? If he crossed the line with kissing her & saying what he said to me, this is now not just me and not just an isolated thing. I know saying something and making this official is the right thing to do, but I'm freaking out.
Because its official, something is now going to happen. I don't know what, but something. At first I was freaking out because he might be fired now that we've and specifically because I have spoken out. But now? I'm freaking out because... what if he isn't fired? What if he stays? Obviously they are going to talk to him. He'll know I said something. What if he doesn't lose his job??? I'm freaking out because of that part now.
This whole situation just sucks and there is no other way to say it and no way around it. I am uncomfortable around him and too many others are as well. This isn't fun anymore. Something had to be done. I know I did nothing wrong and I know speaking out is the right thing and what has to be done. But DAMN this just sucks! Why did he have to go and do this and ruin everything???
Sunday, July 3, 2011
Hitting the beach!
Today has been off to a great start. Last night I went out for sushi with the guy, then we watched a movie at his house. I woke up this morning in his arms before heading home to feed the cats and give McGraw his shot. At about 10, I dropped the cats off to be boarded for the week. After coming home, I've finished washing the dishes, vacuumed the house and have the litter boxes and all the trash ready to go out.
Granted, I haven't packed anything yet. :) I have a laundry basket full of clean clothes on the kitchen table that I need to go through and piles of things around it that I want to take, plus my packing list.
I still have to color my hair. Bought that yesterday so if I do it now, any brassiness will come out with the sun. Now all that's left is coloring my hair, packing, dropping off my rent, taking out the trash and leaving. I got gas this morning on my way home from the guys place.
I'm really gonna miss him. Right now its kind of up in the air when he's going to come down. Depends on how his work is going and about his dog.. he needs to get Rocco to his parents house. I'm hoping for Thursday night which I think I said 3 or 4 times between last night and this morning. When he was kissing me good-bye this morning, he said he try for Thursday. I really would love it if that's when he got there.
And of course, I'm already running late. I should be getting ready to leave in about 45 minutes and I'm over an hour away from being ready.... as I lay here on my sofa typing away! :)
Happy Vacation!
Granted, I haven't packed anything yet. :) I have a laundry basket full of clean clothes on the kitchen table that I need to go through and piles of things around it that I want to take, plus my packing list.
I still have to color my hair. Bought that yesterday so if I do it now, any brassiness will come out with the sun. Now all that's left is coloring my hair, packing, dropping off my rent, taking out the trash and leaving. I got gas this morning on my way home from the guys place.
I'm really gonna miss him. Right now its kind of up in the air when he's going to come down. Depends on how his work is going and about his dog.. he needs to get Rocco to his parents house. I'm hoping for Thursday night which I think I said 3 or 4 times between last night and this morning. When he was kissing me good-bye this morning, he said he try for Thursday. I really would love it if that's when he got there.
And of course, I'm already running late. I should be getting ready to leave in about 45 minutes and I'm over an hour away from being ready.... as I lay here on my sofa typing away! :)
Happy Vacation!
Saturday, July 2, 2011
VACATION!!!
My office closed yesterday at 3pm. I am officially on vacation and do not return to work until July 11th! :) Time to relax and enjoy and not worry about work at all. I got a great start yesterday. After my other cat Patches had a checkup at the vet, I headed over to the guy's house and we went out for dinner. It was just nice to hang out with him.
I love spending the night at his place. First off, his bed is SO freakin comfortable. But even better, I just love waking up in his arms. I miss it when I'm alone.
At this point, I know my feelings for him are getting even stronger. I'm going to miss him when I'm away. But he's coming down the Cape with me for a couple of days, which will be great. I can't wait to stay there with him.
Today I have already cleaned my house minus vacuuming. I think I'll do that in the morning after I drop the cats off. Then they won't be there to add more fur to the place. I haven't even started packing yet, but I have made my list! Me and those damn lists!
I'm just being lazy right now.... laying on the sofa, got the tv on and here on my laptop. I need to hop in the shower and head up to mom's house. I have to do laundry up there plus pack up my car with a bunch of her crap for the Cape. I think I'm taking all the chairs plus food and bedding. Whatever fits basically and still leaves me some room for my stuff.
Tonight I'm going out with the guy again and I'll spend tonight at his house again. Then home in the morning, feed the cats and give McGraw his meds, then drop them off at the vet. I'll have to pack and vacuum at that point before leaving. And toss in a shower somewhere in all of that too.
I'm really looking forward to just relaxing on the beach all week. The weather is FINALLY starting to get nice for the summer. Which is perfect timing! I've lucked out most summers. Even when most of the summer is bad weather, my week is almost always all beach days. LOVE that.
Things really are going along amazingly well with the guy. He's so sweet and so kind and just so good to me. He rubs my back when its bad (been out all week and got new meds when I went to the doctor on Wednesday), and overall just is so nice about everything.
Its nice to be with someone who is that thoughtful and that kind and sweet to me. He's rough around the edges, a tough guy to look at. He looks like he could kick some ass... and he really could! He's not super tall, but broad shoulders and HUGE arms. His body is incredible. He has the coolest eyes too, that change color depending on what he's wearing. I've seen them gray and hazel and green. Gray is cool.
I'm just happy I found a guy like him. He's not perfect but he's right for me. He's a really good match.
I've learned alot about what I want in a relationship over the past few years. I've tried dating a few different people that just didn't work out. From each attempt, I took something that helped me realize what is more important to me. I know I don't want to be with someone who drinks alot. I know that attraction is important. I need someone who likes to be active and who's adventurous and likes to try new things. I know that I need to be with someone who likes animals and hopefully has a pet or 2. I need to be with someone who is independent and has his own interests, but who still wants to include me in his life. And I need to be with someone who loves to laugh and can laugh at himself too.
All of that fits with this guy. Plus, I like how I feel when I'm with him. We laugh ALL the time, ALL the time! We give each other a hard time back and forth and just have fun together. I know he cares about me. He's the one who started using labels... telling his friend on the phone that he had to go cuz his girlfriend just go there.
I'm just really happy with him and how things are with us. I'm completely in the moment with him. I'm totally secure with how things are between us and I have no worries about anything. Yeah, I have my own jealousy issues that I've always had. Do I love that he has a ton of female friends on Facebook? Hell no. But that's my issue, not his. I have a ton of guy facebook friends too.
So next weekend will be great while he's down there. But before he gets there, I'm going to enjoy my week, relaxing on the beach and reading and just working on the tan! :)
I love spending the night at his place. First off, his bed is SO freakin comfortable. But even better, I just love waking up in his arms. I miss it when I'm alone.
At this point, I know my feelings for him are getting even stronger. I'm going to miss him when I'm away. But he's coming down the Cape with me for a couple of days, which will be great. I can't wait to stay there with him.
Today I have already cleaned my house minus vacuuming. I think I'll do that in the morning after I drop the cats off. Then they won't be there to add more fur to the place. I haven't even started packing yet, but I have made my list! Me and those damn lists!
I'm just being lazy right now.... laying on the sofa, got the tv on and here on my laptop. I need to hop in the shower and head up to mom's house. I have to do laundry up there plus pack up my car with a bunch of her crap for the Cape. I think I'm taking all the chairs plus food and bedding. Whatever fits basically and still leaves me some room for my stuff.
Tonight I'm going out with the guy again and I'll spend tonight at his house again. Then home in the morning, feed the cats and give McGraw his meds, then drop them off at the vet. I'll have to pack and vacuum at that point before leaving. And toss in a shower somewhere in all of that too.
I'm really looking forward to just relaxing on the beach all week. The weather is FINALLY starting to get nice for the summer. Which is perfect timing! I've lucked out most summers. Even when most of the summer is bad weather, my week is almost always all beach days. LOVE that.
Things really are going along amazingly well with the guy. He's so sweet and so kind and just so good to me. He rubs my back when its bad (been out all week and got new meds when I went to the doctor on Wednesday), and overall just is so nice about everything.
Its nice to be with someone who is that thoughtful and that kind and sweet to me. He's rough around the edges, a tough guy to look at. He looks like he could kick some ass... and he really could! He's not super tall, but broad shoulders and HUGE arms. His body is incredible. He has the coolest eyes too, that change color depending on what he's wearing. I've seen them gray and hazel and green. Gray is cool.
I'm just happy I found a guy like him. He's not perfect but he's right for me. He's a really good match.
I've learned alot about what I want in a relationship over the past few years. I've tried dating a few different people that just didn't work out. From each attempt, I took something that helped me realize what is more important to me. I know I don't want to be with someone who drinks alot. I know that attraction is important. I need someone who likes to be active and who's adventurous and likes to try new things. I know that I need to be with someone who likes animals and hopefully has a pet or 2. I need to be with someone who is independent and has his own interests, but who still wants to include me in his life. And I need to be with someone who loves to laugh and can laugh at himself too.
All of that fits with this guy. Plus, I like how I feel when I'm with him. We laugh ALL the time, ALL the time! We give each other a hard time back and forth and just have fun together. I know he cares about me. He's the one who started using labels... telling his friend on the phone that he had to go cuz his girlfriend just go there.
I'm just really happy with him and how things are with us. I'm completely in the moment with him. I'm totally secure with how things are between us and I have no worries about anything. Yeah, I have my own jealousy issues that I've always had. Do I love that he has a ton of female friends on Facebook? Hell no. But that's my issue, not his. I have a ton of guy facebook friends too.
So next weekend will be great while he's down there. But before he gets there, I'm going to enjoy my week, relaxing on the beach and reading and just working on the tan! :)
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